The Basic Science of Porn Addiction

There are 5 main brain chemicals associated with pornography addiction and each has their own function within pornography addiction. They are Dopamine, Adrenaline, Serotonin, Prolactin and Oxytocin.


Dopamine is the main chemical pushing porn addiction; is a “neurotransmitter” (which simply means “a chemical in the body

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The Big Ego/ Low Self Esteem Connection

I know it may sound ridiculous but a big ego is really just the flip side of low self esteem. How can that be, you ask, when you see someone who has an over inflated opinion of themselves acting with such apparent confidence? How can that person possibly  have no self esteem? Well they can.

Those who are all fluffed up like peacocks with “I am the Big I Am” energy are really people crippled with low self esteem and usually feel less than the filth

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Loved Ones: Are You Dehumanizing Your Addict?

dehumanizationLoved ones… Am I right about this… that you both deeply love, and deeply hate, your addict? If so, this is normal for the loved ones of active addicts. I mean, let’s face it, having an active addict in your life can be hell on earth at times. Especially if the person is coming to your door wanting to fleece you of not only your money and resources, but also your patience and positivity. Active addicts in the grip of

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What is “Hardcore Recovery for Rock Bottom Addiction”?

Andy Dufresne tastes freedon in the Shawshank RedemptionThe only recovery that REALLY sticks for the LONG term (and I mean a recovery where the person feels comfortable inside their skin not using and not a recovery where they are “white knuckling” life through gritted teeth and gagging to be able to use but can’t) is a recovery forged in the fire of a rock bottom of some description – may that be emotional, psychological and/ or physical. This is just a FACT. A person has to be utterly sick and tired of being utterly sick and tired of the way they are living in order to get to a place where they can say to themselves “I am willing to go to ANY lengths to recover.”

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The “Sins of the Father” and Active Addiction

The terms “Sins of the Father” or “Sins of the Fathers” derives from the Bible and refers to the sins (or iniquities) of one generation being passed onto another. These “sins” may be mild – like a bad habit – or severe – like beating up your children or partner. Both teach behavior patterns by example…. Or in other words: “Do as I do not as I say.”

Of course, when in active addiction, being present – even to ourselves – let

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My Top 3 Recovery Tools For Dealing With Stress in Recovery

Here’s my top 3 addiction recovery tools for dealing with stress of any description when in recovery:

1. Deep Breathing from the Stomach

Deep breathing from the stomach helps reduce stress almost instantly. By breathing deeply from the stomach, we automatically get our mind, body and spirit more in synch with each other. This then frees us up to come at any anxiety producing situation from a more balanced perspective.

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