Gratitude is the Key

Having an attitude of gratitudeG.K. Chesterton once wrote “I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” I know now what he means by that after many years of struggling to understand the purpose of gratitude. At first I thought gratitude was about people pleasing some deity which I took great exception to… “Why on earth does “God” need us humans bowing

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Take Your Broken Wings and Learn To Fly

Billi's Wedding3 weeks before my wedding in the woods in November 2011, my then fiancé had a relapse of his alcohol addiction. He was admitted to hospital on a drip and had severe delirium tremors after 16 days of the bender. He was in bad shape but not as bad as the man in the next bed who was carried out in a box heading for the mortuary. He made the wedding on the 16th December by the skin of his teeth. I went through with the wedding to honor my promise of being his official next of kin

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The Only Way Out of Rough Times is Through Them

If you're going through hell, keep goingWherever you are in your addiction career or recovery from addiction – or for that matter – wherever you are in life – if it is tough going know that the only way out is through. It’s the only way to get to the other side.

I’m currently walking through the choice to study pornography addiction and the pornography industry for the next Recovery Kit and find myself deep in the bowels

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Mind Chatter VS Dark Chatter

Which wolf will you feed? Our minds – led by our controlling egos – have to feel as if they are in control 24 hours a day every day. It does this with a constant stream of commentary on every conceivable thing imaginable it encounters – past, present and future. This is “normal” for our times seeing as we are bombarded with so much fodder for it to sink itself into day in day out. This is not “thinking” though. This is “commentating”. Period. Henry Ford once said “Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason why so few engage in it.”

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Patience is a Rough Old Game

patience is the key in addiction recoveryJoyce Meyers once wrote… “Patience is not the ability to wait. Waiting is a fact of life. Patience is the ability to keep a good attitude while we wait.” I love that quote.

Keeping that “good attitude” though is probably one of the hardest things we will have to do as human beings. The temptation is always to gravitate towards negativity and to conjuring up all the reasons why the thing we are waiting for will not turn out as we hope it will. This is the lower vibration energy having it’s way with us (aka the Agenda of Addiction) and it will ALWAYS be waiting to pounce during those times when we are being forced into having to wait for the Universe to give us the nod in relation to whatever is going on in our lives.

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Learning How to Delay Gratification

learn how to delay gratificationAs we developed into active addicts, and in our need to get “fixed” as quickly as possible to get our hit, we became people, over time, who needed and wanted instant gratification in all areas of our life. Our addictive need for instant gratification was aided and abetted by a world that seems hell bent on moving us as far away from delaying gratification

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