There is a Love and Sex Life After Porn Addiction

Let’s face it, once the drug of porn gets a person gripped, all intimacy and love with a real live person goes out the window doesn’t it? Because real people, when you are in the throws of porn addiction, are just “bad porn” right?

So what happens once the drug of porn is put down? How do you reconnect again with your partner in loving, sexual and sensual ways? The reality is that many recovering porn addicts (and their partners) are left crying out for direction on how to have a healthy relationship with their sexual selves and/ or with their loved one

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Loved Ones: The Importance of Boundaries and Decisions

Loved Ones… Your addict, when not in recovery from their wet, dry or behavioral addiction, is in a sort or feral state. Their number one priority, 99 times out of 100, is to get their needs met by any means necessary and everything else comes secondary to that – including your needs and the needs of your family. It is not that they are being intentionally selfish or out to get you. It is more about you being in the way of their speeding car and the nature of the beast of addiction that creates this state. Remember that a dark energy inhabits addicts prior to

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Saying a Long Slow Goodbye To My Last Drug

In the late 1990s, I became a vegan (which means you don’t eat anything that comes from something with a face) during the “mad cow disease” farming crisis here in the UK. Cows were shot in the head and then burnt in public and their suffering – as well as the suffering of the human victims of the disease – were plastered all over the news every day for months on end. I just couldn’t stomach being a part of a system which treated animals so shabbily anymore. It was a horrible chapter in British farming history.

I made the right choice for my soul back then but failed to make the right choices for my body.

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Dealing With Depression in Recovery

At some point in every addict’s recovery, we will experience some degree of depression. That’s just a given. Before I discuss that though, I need to say up front that I don’t personally go along with the current medical establishment’s huge list of types of depression believing that these lists/ types of depression are created to get as much profit from vulnerable people as drug companies can. Instead I will say that in my view, there are 3 types: mild, moderate and severe. I define ‘mild’ or ‘reactive’ depression as the low we experience as a result of something

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Celebrating Love in Recovery

Since today is Valentines Day, I wanted to celebrate those current or ex couples who have gone a few rounds with the Beast that is addiction and come out the other side of that baptism of fire. As we can all testify, addiction is a respecter of no-one and nothing so for two people to survive to a place where there is still love between them – platonic or romantic – then my hat is off to them both.

Some couples do make it romantically if both of them are solidly on the path of recovery. If that is you… Fantastic. Good luck to you both. If you keep your side of the street clean one day at a time and stay focused on just your own business and not your partners, there is no reason on earth why you can’t go the distance in your relationship.

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Are Your Children Watching Porn in School?

I came across this Buzzfeed.com webpage from August 2014 the other day about what the Top 13 Most Popular Porn Sites were in the world. Intrigued by who the visitors were to each of these websites – in my continuous journey to understand more about porn addiction – I decided to do some digging in Alexa.com. I was utterly stunned by what I found.

The bottom line was that 11 out of the 13 sites (all Tube sites) mentioned had the browsing location of visitors as ‘School’. I made THIS VIDEO to show the audience demographics for each of the 13 sites to explain more fully what I mean.

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