Patience is a Rough Old Game

patience is the key in addiction recoveryJoyce Meyers once wrote… “Patience is not the ability to wait. Waiting is a fact of life. Patience is the ability to keep a good attitude while we wait.” I love that quote.

Keeping that “good attitude” though is probably one of the hardest things we will have to do as human beings. The temptation is always to gravitate towards negativity and to conjuring up all the reasons why the thing we are waiting for will not turn out as we hope it will. This is the lower vibration energy having it’s way with us (aka the Agenda of Addiction) and it will ALWAYS be waiting to pounce during those times when we are being forced into having to wait for the Universe to give us the nod in relation to whatever is going on in our lives.

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Learning How to Delay Gratification

learn how to delay gratificationAs we developed into active addicts, and in our need to get “fixed” as quickly as possible to get our hit, we became people, over time, who needed and wanted instant gratification in all areas of our life. Our addictive need for instant gratification was aided and abetted by a world that seems hell bent on moving us as far away from delaying gratification

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Acceptance is the Key in Addiction Recovery

acceptanceWhen we are disturbed by something going on in our lives, we will not find peace with that thing unless and until we accept the fact that it is there. Fighting its reality and denying it exists only digs us deeper into negativity and pain.

Acceptance does not mean that we have to agree with the thing. Far from it. Acceptance also does not mean that we are prisoners to the facts either. It simply means we are calling what we see as being a reality whether we like it or not.

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Porn Performer Death Rates

In loving memory...On my trail of the truth behind both the Pornography industry in general and Pornography Addiction specifically, I came across these facts which astounded me. They are courtesy of Shelley Lubben – ex porn performer and campaigner against what she now calls “the slave trade industry”. She left the porn industry in 1994 when she caught Genital Herpes, a non-curable disease and HPV, which led to cervical cancer where she had half of her cervix removed. Shelley says… “Out of about 2,000 performers working in California, 

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Lying To Survive Life

fingers crossed when lyingI came across the following post by a lying addict today and found it fascinating to read and wanted to share it. Not once in my Lying Addiction research did I come across anyone with such self awareness about why they need to lie. The quote is by shayeshaye…

“Why do people get so bent out of shape about my lying? They cling so tenaciously to so-called “truth” like it really matters for some reason. They need to be more like me and realize “reality” is too messy and difficult

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Embracing the Reality of Uncertainty

Lost and Confused SignpostPart of the condition of being human seems to be always needing to feel we are in control of our life and knowing exactly what is going to happen next, when it’s going to happen, why and with whom. In a world full of uncertainty and apparent chaos, having the illusion that we are in control seems like a sane response and in many ways it is especially if our active addiction days were mayhem and now we feel like we need total control back.

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