Wherever you are in your addiction career or recovery from addiction – or for that matter – wherever you are in life – if it is tough going know that the only way out is through. It’s the only way to get to the other side.
I’m currently walking through the choice to study pornography addiction and the pornography industry for the next Recovery Kit and find myself deep in the bowels
Our minds – led by our controlling egos – have to feel as if they are in control 24 hours a day every day. It does this with a constant stream of commentary on every conceivable thing imaginable it encounters – past, present and future. This is “normal” for our times seeing as we are bombarded with so much fodder for it to sink itself into day in day out. This is not “thinking” though. This is “commentating”. Period. Henry Ford once said “Thinking is the hardestwork there is, which is probably the reason why so few engage in it.”
Joyce Meyers once wrote… “Patience is not the ability to wait. Waiting is a fact of life. Patience is the ability to keep a good attitude while we wait.” I love that quote.
Keeping that “good attitude” though is probably one of the hardest things we will have to do as human beings. The temptation is always to gravitate towards negativity and to conjuring up all the reasons why the thing we are waiting for will not turn out as we hope it will. This is the lower vibration energy having it’s way with us (aka the Agenda of Addiction) and it will ALWAYS be waiting to pounce during those times when we are being forced into having to wait for the Universe to give us the nod in relation to whatever is going on in our lives.
As we developed into active addicts, and in our need to get “fixed” as quickly as possible to get our hit, we became people, over time, who needed and wanted instant gratification in all areas of our life. Our addictive need for instant gratification was aided and abetted by a world that seems hell bent on moving us as far away from delaying gratification
When we are disturbed by something going on in our lives, we will not find peace with that thing unless and until we accept the fact that it is there. Fighting its reality and denying it exists only digs us deeper into negativity and pain.
Acceptance does not mean that we have to agree with the thing. Far from it. Acceptance also does not mean that we are prisoners to the facts either. It simply means we are calling what we see as being a reality whether we like it or not.
On my trail of the truth behind both the Pornography industry in general and Pornography Addiction specifically, I came across these facts which astounded me. They are courtesy of Shelley Lubben – ex porn performer and campaigner against what she now calls “the slave trade industry”. She left the porn industry in 1994 when she caught Genital Herpes, a non-curable disease and HPV, which led to cervical cancer where she had half of her cervix removed. Shelley says… “Out of about 2,000 performers working in California,