Self pity is part of the DNA of addiction. It is often one of the things which fuels it when in active addiction and something which recovering addicts have to be very careful of indulging in when they enter recovery. The alcoholism recovery movement talk about “poor me, poor me, pour me a drink”. They are very clued up on the dangers of self pity. They feel this emotion should have a skull and crossbones on it due to it’s potential to take them back to the drink.